This post’s topic is one of my favorites, well, in a sense that together with the other Life Traps it gets to shine through and take over my life like no other. The constant feeling of not being enough and having to be better, if not the best, has crippled me for a very long…
Author: Maria
What are Families made of?
According to the Cambridge Dictionary, a family is ‘’a group of people who are related to each other”. But what does that mean in this world of separation, kids being tossed around and even people scheming to have children alone, sometimes leaving the father out of the picture altogether by never telling the man he…
Life Traps | Pt. 17: Alienation
Among the most inconvenient Life Traps in my life might be Social Isolation. One of the biggest contributors in my life for the majority of my life has been the sense of not belonging anywhere, and together with Traps like Mistrust and Pessimism, it becomes hard to even think about being in any way social….
Could you be with your husband 24/7?
Due to the Covid running rampant around the world, people have been facing this new challenge: staying inside with their families. The limitations and closed places give people fewer opportunities to go out and about, and that seems to make tensions rise within households. Why is it difficult for people to be confined with their…
Life Traps | Pt. 16: Self-sacrificing
When it comes to me as a Borderline person, most of the Life Traps we have already talked about are majorly affected by my fear of being abandoned. The Life Trap of Self-sacrificing is no different from Traps like Subjugation and Recognition-seeking, as it stems from the same core place: Please don’t leave me. A…
What does Borderline Psychosis feel like?
Disclaimer & Trigger warning: The following article touches on topics such as trauma, self-harm, and suicidal tendencies. It is purely based on my own experiences in the realm of psychotic symptoms, and as per the golden rule of any mental disorder, the symptoms vary based on the individual. Not once have I heard of two…
Life Traps | Pt. 15: Emotional Deprivation
As a borderline, battling with the Life Trap of Emotional Deprivation can get extremely tricky. The constant feeling of lacking something strains the relationships and leads me astray. A brief summary based on what the book, Tunne Lukkosi by Kimmo Takanen, tells us of the Life Trap of Emotional Deprivation: I feel like I’m lacking…
What I learned from getting scammed on Fiverr
While I’ve read many of the horror stories related to being a seller on Fiverr (including fake buyers, such as in this post by Blogging and Living, that go through with their transactions and then cancel it and vanish forever, leaving the seller in a bad situation since Fiverr does not properly protect the sellers)…
Life Traps | Pt. 14: Vulnerability to Harm
The world is quite a scary place, filled with illness, fights, toxicity, and all the other nasty things under the sky. Today I will dwell into the Life Trap of being vulnerable to these harms, on a level that causes severe stress reactions and fear. A brief summary based on what the book, Tunne Lukkosi…
Stop chasing ‘’True Love’’
Once I got married, I found out one of the biggest secrets of life, and at the same time, one of the biggest lies people tell themselves and others: We need to stop running after the fake image we have of true love. The following is my woman’s perspective, a rant on the topic! Fairytail…