First a little bit of knowledge about DBT (Dialectical Behaviour Therapy) DBT is a form of practical therapy where we learn about emotion management and how to recognize emotions, and about primary and secondary feelings, and much more. But it is also a way of thinking that says that the coin can have two sides…
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Life Traps | Pt. 7: Mistrust
TRIGGER WARNING: This post contains talk of abuse (all sorts), and everything related. In this post, we take a look at the Life Trap of Mistrust and Abuse. I often found myself in these situations because of other traps such as Recognition-seeking and Failure, which we have talked about in previous parts of this series. …
Life Traps | Pt. 6: Recognition-seeking
Today we move from the Life Trap of Abandonment to Recognition-seeking and see how it affects me. As we go further in this journey, we start to see that the emotional locks and chains inside me are truly a legion, and it will take some serious work to get them to resolve. A brief summary…
This is what my normal day may look like- Borderline’s thoughts
TRIGGER WARNING: Violence, blood, self-harm I’ll tell you about this one morning since it is a vivid memory in me as I start to write, I tend to forget everything and things become a blur after a while. I woke up in pain. Like physical pain, which is how I usually woke up in the…
Life Traps | Pt. 5: Abandonment
TRIGGER WARNING: contains talk of self-harm, suicide, abuse, and the like. Moving on from the Life Trap of Failure I briefly talked about in my last post, it’s time for the big one for us BPD sufferers – Abandonment. One of the central pillars of being a borderline is the instability of relations ship that…
Life Traps | Pt. 4: Failure
As we pick up speed in the series and move on from the Life Traps of Emotional inhibition and Subjugation, I am getting more and more into places that are very uncomfortable for me. The topics within this post, failure, and the next one that will be about abandonment, will be a rough journey. A…
My relationship with Suicide
The way I saw my life for over 15 years is that my life here was given to me as a punishment. Now, this can be quite a thing to say since I have a family and more that despite their glitches love me and keep trying. I had my partners, who tried to understand…
Life Traps | Pt. 3 : Emotional inhibition
In my previous post, I talked about the first Life Trap – Subjugation. In this post, I will be taking a closer look at the Trap of Emotional inhibition and how it affects me. A brief summary based on what the book, Tunne Lukkosi by Kimmo Takanen, tells us of the Life Trap of Emotional…
The consequences of not being enough
I reached a point in my online therapy regime where I needed to start facing my fears and causes of anxiety. I had done this for a little less than a week and I came to a realization. A light-bulb moment. Eureka! One of my core issues is that I’m not enough. Or I think…
Life Traps | Pt. 2: Subjugation
In this post, I will take a closer look at the Life Trap – Subjugation, and how it affects me in my daily life. It is the first of the 18 Life Traps that I will delve into as I go through the book at hand, Tunne Lukkosi by Kimmo Takanen. A brief summary based…