The world is quite a scary place, filled with illness, fights, toxicity, and all the other nasty things under the sky. Today I will dwell into the Life Trap of being vulnerable to these harms, on a level that causes severe stress reactions and fear. A brief summary based on what the book, Tunne Lukkosi…
Category: BPD
All things Borderline Personality Disorder and living with it.
Life Traps | Pt. 13: Insufficient Self-control
One of the hallmarks of Borderline Personality Disorder is our impulsivity. Today’s topic of Insufficient Self-control, or lack of self-discipline, touches this trait on the surface as I ponder how it affects my life as I live it. A brief summary based on what the book, Tunne Lukkosi by Kimmo Takanen, tells us of the…
Life Traps | Pt. 12: Dependence
Today’s topic is already often considered a curse word, and when it comes to someone with Borderline Personality Disorder it can get pretty dangerous for the individual. The Life Trap of Dependence, or in other words, being dependent on people too much, is something I struggled with for most of my life, and am trying…
Life Traps | Pt. 11: Punitiveness
We’ve come to the halfway point in the descriptions of the Life Traps, only nine more to go! It’s been quite the trip, on I bet that it will keep being one, for me at least. Today I am taking a look at the Life Trap of Punitiveness, in other words, being punishing. A brief…
What happened when I went to get help for my BPD
Disclaimer: this happened while I was between the ages of 18 to 29. After that, I got married and now have my husband helping me and backing me up with health care. I have since been to some DBT and other forms of care. It took me a solid decade to even get a guess…
Life Traps | Pt. 10: Pessimism
In this post, I will take a look at the Life Trap of Pessimism, which in my experience goes hand in hand with the Trap of Failure. Feeling like a failure all the time, how could I possibly be thinking in a more optimistic way? A brief summary based on what the book, Tunne Lukkosi…
Life Traps | Entitlement and BPD
In this post, we will look at the Life Trap of Entitlement, which is all about the mentality of “I have the right to do this!”. This Trap often kicks in for me together with Subjugation, as I use it as a weapon when compensating for being so meek and willing and having done so…
Life Traps | Enmeshment and BPD
In this post, we will look at the Life Trap of Enmeshment. It goes well together with ones like Subjugation and Recognition-seeking, since, as a borderline chameleon, I am constantly seeking ways to not be abandoned. What better way to do that than to adopt the likes of the one I need to stay? A…
Difficulties I experience in controlling my emotions
First a little bit of knowledge about DBT (Dialectical Behaviour Therapy) DBT is a form of practical therapy where we learn about emotion management and how to recognize emotions, and about primary and secondary feelings, and much more. But it is also a way of thinking that says that the coin can have two sides…
Life Traps | Pt. 7: Mistrust
TRIGGER WARNING: This post contains talk of abuse (all sorts), and everything related. In this post, we take a look at the Life Trap of Mistrust and Abuse. I often found myself in these situations because of other traps such as Recognition-seeking and Failure, which we have talked about in previous parts of this series. …