The long series of posts that all are a part of a whole!
When it comes to me as a Borderline person, most of the Life Traps we have already talked about are majorly affected by my fear of being abandoned. The Life Trap of Self-sacrificing is no different from Traps like Subjugation and Recognition-seeking, as it stems from the same core place: Please don’t leave me. A…
As a borderline, battling with the Life Trap of Emotional Deprivation can get extremely tricky. The constant feeling of lacking something strains the relationships and leads me astray. A brief summary based on what the book, Tunne Lukkosi by Kimmo Takanen, tells us of the Life Trap of Emotional Deprivation: I feel like I’m lacking…
The world is quite a scary place, filled with illness, fights, toxicity, and all the other nasty things under the sky. Today I will dwell into the Life Trap of being vulnerable to these harms, on a level that causes severe stress reactions and fear. A brief summary based on what the book, Tunne Lukkosi…
One of the hallmarks of Borderline Personality Disorder is our impulsivity. Today’s topic of Insufficient Self-control, or lack of self-discipline, touches this trait on the surface as I ponder how it affects my life as I live it. A brief summary based on what the book, Tunne Lukkosi by Kimmo Takanen, tells us of the…
Today’s topic is already often considered a curse word, and when it comes to someone with Borderline Personality Disorder it can get pretty dangerous for the individual. The Life Trap of Dependence, or in other words, being dependent on people too much, is something I struggled with for most of my life, and am trying…
We’ve come to the halfway point in the descriptions of the Life Traps, only nine more to go! It’s been quite the trip, on I bet that it will keep being one, for me at least. Today I am taking a look at the Life Trap of Punitiveness, in other words, being punishing. A brief…
In this post, I will take a look at the Life Trap of Pessimism, which in my experience goes hand in hand with the Trap of Failure. Feeling like a failure all the time, how could I possibly be thinking in a more optimistic way? A brief summary based on what the book, Tunne Lukkosi…
In this post, we will look at the Life Trap of Entitlement, which is all about the mentality of “I have the right to do this!”. This Trap often kicks in for me together with Subjugation, as I use it as a weapon when compensating for being so meek and willing and having done so…
In this post, we will look at the Life Trap of Enmeshment. It goes well together with ones like Subjugation and Recognition-seeking, since, as a borderline chameleon, I am constantly seeking ways to not be abandoned. What better way to do that than to adopt the likes of the one I need to stay? A…
TRIGGER WARNING: This post contains talk of abuse (all sorts), and everything related. In this post, we take a look at the Life Trap of Mistrust and Abuse. I often found myself in these situations because of other traps such as Recognition-seeking and Failure, which we have talked about in previous parts of this series. …