Warning: Contains Rare Wedding Imagery!

07/01/2020.

That was the magical day when I married and became Mrs. Vana. There were many misconceptions about my beloved husband among my family, though with time they have lessened. However, those notions keep causing me sorrow, and it’s sometimes hard to maintain the mentality that our relationship is ours. That being said, marrying this man was the best decision I have made in my life! 

Now. Let me be honest for a second. I’m not in any way or shape the spitting image of a perfect wife. No way no how. With my Borderline sensitivities, I’m pretty much the opposite! And when I combine them with my lack of knowledge in the basics of how to be human… I don’t envy my beloved Mr. Vana. He has his work cut out for him in the series “How to Train a Woman.”

Here is the thing though. Mr. Vana went ahead and told me that the only thing he requires is a housewife. Someone to take care of him and the home. The rest of the time the woman, me, can do whatever she pleases with the time. ‘How very patriarchal,’ some would say. However, I don’t see it that way. It gives me the freedom I craved in my life, paired with the responsibilities we established for both of us. I gain the support and love I needed to chase my dreams and start running with my own feet again. And I mean that quite literally, I could barely walk before he started helping me out. 

So what happened on the big day?

Here’s where I might disappoint you – it was nothing extravagant. Just us, taking a simple wow to work for the benefit of the family in front of the public notary. To be honest, I loved the ceremony. It was very much me in how it focused on the family and the people getting married.

I’m not traditionally religious despite my spiritual tendencies, so all the Christian stuff that you usually see here in Finland… Would’ve been out of my world. Not to mention the discord that has with his heritage. Come to think of it, that would’ve never been on the table even if we chose a bigger event! If anything, I would’ve done my all to make it so we can do it in his traditions.

Family’s absence

One thing we missed was family. His side of the clan is all the way back in Israel. They’ve taken me in with such warm hearts and open arms I never knew could happen in my lifetime. I mean, the in-laws being that warm is practically unheard of in my Finnish realm of how the family works. It’s so cold and stiff, more about the image than actual love between fellow humans and adopted daughters and sons. 

I also wish my own family to be able to develop that warmth towards my husband despite our past quarrels. Sometimes things get messy, I get it. Miscommunications as well as cultural differences can leave a huge gap in the will to understand something new and unknown.

Celebrations!

After the ceremony, we went to have a proper Viking feast. I’m not kidding either, I’ll show you! It was the King’s Feast, and it came with a starter, main, and dessert. I haven’t had a meal like that ever in my life! Although that could also be attributed to the fact that I had just become Mrs. Maria Vana. And that my fresh husband was smiling at me with his gorgeous eyes shimmering in the restaurant’s dim light. I was completely and utterly bewitched.

Enjoying the night

After the feast, we took a lovely walk through town before heading back to our apartment. We lay on the bed and spend some quality time together, all cuddled up, struck by what just happened. Days like this can be exhausting for me so I needed the respite. Lucky for me my husband understands my ailments more than anyone else and gives me grace.

It has been some time now since the day I became Mrs. Vana and I’m still getting used to it. Sometimes I feel like this isn’t real, that I live in a dream and will wake up soon. I look at my amazing man and can’t help but smile with tears of joy falling down my cheeks. He chose me! In fact, he vowed to take care of me. He is doing everything in his power to help me be the best me I can be and the healthiest. And that, my friends, is a blessing I never thought I’d experience. Even if it means he is sometimes a tyrant about my sweeties!

Last Updated: 30/06/2023