Since I wrote about keeping him satiated, so I figured it only fair to make one for us women too. Sometimes, men’s masculine needs may sometimes seem brutish and unthinkable to us women. However, I’m also certain that the abstract needs of women baffle the logical minds of men to no end.
A woman’s essence
In a crude generalization, we women have a tendency to be more emotional. Things that touch us will get us to move in directions we are sometimes not even aware of. I don’t think it is a coincidence that getting a response from women is the core of most advertisements. Do let me know if a guy ever bought juice because of the seductive sunrise that comes with opening it. Maybe I’m just influence deaf these days, considering my בעלי is someone who is not typically swayed by emotion-based adverts.
As women, we are also exceptional caretakers. We have the innate ability to be more empathetic using behavior and tones. This comes in very handy when dealing with any sort of nurturing task, I imagine. All I really had to do is lean on the feminine, natural side of myself to tap into this power. These days I’m doing my best to practice this gentle, caregiving nature by being there for my husband.
One thing that has been quite saddening for me to notice is the loss of traditional femininity in our era. Society tells women to go in a masculine direction – be (head) strong, be independent, and be a career workhorse! Of course, it’s not impossible to do so and to be very feminine. That said, I’ve yet to see anyone going for the traditionally masculine things who was also feminine and gentle. Can you imagine a top-dog lawyer or business owner being like that? I can’t, and I truly believe there is a certain ruthlessness that comes with that territory.
Try to understand her
Now, no matter what sort of a woman you may come across, we typically share the same basic needs. One of which is our desire to be heard. While it’s nice to see you take our opinions seriously, it comes nowhere close to the core of just listening. Just lending that hearing ear. Sometimes, we just need someone to be there to take it all in as we ramble on about our problems.
A funny thing happens with men and women sometimes, a kind of black hole in communication. It is no secret that men are more task-oriented, they are problem solvers. We females, however, tend to be a little different. Many times women go to a man just to vent, and he starts solving the problem. This can be a very bad idea as we women are fickle creatures, and will find something offending. Here is a good rule of thumb. Women, let the poor man know if you actually need help, or if you just need to blow some steam.
I see women as the chaotic energy of the world. So much can be done with this if only it was under some relative control. This is why, at least in my opinion, male patience is a true virtue. As with anything, however, there is a limit. Don’t be taking all the punches or annoyments, remember that you can, and should have boundaries as well. No matter how wretched of a cis white male you may be.
Be her companion
Women are social creatures. The world of gossip is not too foreign to anyone who has been observing the lives of the typical female. We just love to share our thoughts and inner world. I suppose that makes us amazing potential for the whole influencer business on all social media. Sadly, I don’t have like-minded female companionship, and so my husband takes on the task like a proper champion. Here again, there needs to be a word of warning. Ladies, do not go sharing your passions and deepest desires outside to that male ’friend’ of yours. We are not in the business of bonding with other men!
As empaths and emotional beings, we thrive when we are loved and cared for. Who wouldn’t? Everyone certainly likes to feel safe and sound, secure and taken care of. But for a woman, this is often emphasized. The relief I experienced when I got to marry this gorgeous man was something I never thought I’d have. He is like the immovable mountain, everything will work out in the end. That kind of peace of mind can never be underestimated in the world we are living in.
But how to do that?
A good place to start is to use tender, verbal validations. Tell her how beautiful she is, even when she has a fever or is looking sad and beaten. I can’t tell you how much it means for my husband to be there. When he lets me know he appreciates me and that he is into me despite my various ailments. If we have love in the home, we don’t go seeking it elsewhere. And if we do, there are some serious issues going on in our mindscape, at least in my experience.
Another huge thing you can do is to be encouraging. This doesn’t mean you have to be over the moon about her desire for independence, of course not. But so long as you keep to the agreements you made when you got hitched, shine a light on her. I was so badly beaten up about my writing that I never thought I’d actually manage to pursue it properly. But here I am, smiling as only the stars can, thanks to my husband believing in me. Whenever I have a new idea, he engages in my passion and is as excited about it as I am. That, my friend, is beyond precious.
Become her safety
The topic of security, especially the financial type, can cause quite a ruckus. The world today deems fit to try and tell us we don’t need no man. Well, I do. For me, one would have to be delusional to think that the way of the career samurai is better for me than the harmonious life of a housewife. Who would trade the opportunity to cultivate their craft and self without worry for the stressful, thankless life of corporate? Don’t be foolish.
Even more so, who wouldn’t want their soul to be kept safe? Their core, their essence to be treated like a jewel. Something so precious that it needs to be protected and treasured at all times. I was a wreck of a human being before my husband came to get me. I doubt I would’ve ever found my way back on the Path without him shedding light on it. No matter how strong you are, or pretend to be, the desire to have your heart held tenderly in the embrace of your other half is a powerful force.
The two sexes are different, no matter what people would have you believe. The masculine is more orderly and task-oriented, and the feminine is the emotional color and nurturing. I can’t for the life of me understand why humanity would turn itself away from our beautiful differences. The very things that can bind us into strong units as mutually strengthening traits. I don’t believe anything good can come out of this separation from nature, especially since I experienced that chaos.
The modern woman’s turmoil
The lack of traditional femininity might just be the downfall for us women. While we prance around in the virtual space in our underwear, demanding entitlement… We simultaneously seem to think that promiscuous behavior should not only be celebrated but that it should also not affect the way society sees women. Don’t fool yourself. No proper man would consider a woman behaving in such ways as a potential life partner.
Young, modern women will most likely find themselves alone, and by then it is too late. Many are crying out in pain, having fallen into the waves of progressive feminism, cursing the lack of good men. Well, turns out, the good men are likely not appreciative of having to come home to fight over housework. Nor are they willing to take a self-absorbed woman who parties with the ‘girls’ barely clothed.
I have found, that a proper, masculine man can bring me so much peace. While I do stress about the finances, I never have to worry about having food and shelter. My husband is taking care of it. When I’m struggling, I don’t have to fear fighting those battles alone, my husband has my back. I don’t have to ponder on if I can or can’t, my husband encourages me to keep going forward. And all he asks in return is that I’ll be there for him when he needs me. Just like he is for me.
Last Updated: 10/06/2023