As we pick up speed in the series and move on from the Life Traps of Emotional inhibition and Subjugation, I am getting more and more into places that are very uncomfortable for me. The topics within this post, failure, and the next one that will be about abandonment, will be a rough journey. A…
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My relationship with Suicide
The way I saw my life for over 15 years is that my life here was given to me as a punishment. Now, this can be quite a thing to say since I have a family and more that despite their glitches love me and keep trying. I had my partners, who tried to understand…
Life Traps | Pt. 3 : Emotional inhibition
In my previous post, I talked about the first Life Trap – Subjugation. In this post, I will be taking a closer look at the Trap of Emotional inhibition and how it affects me. A brief summary based on what the book, Tunne Lukkosi by Kimmo Takanen, tells us of the Life Trap of Emotional…
The consequences of not being enough
I reached a point in my online therapy regime where I needed to start facing my fears and causes of anxiety. I had done this for a little less than a week and I came to a realization. A light-bulb moment. Eureka! One of my core issues is that I’m not enough. Or I think…
Life Traps | Pt. 2: Subjugation
In this post, I will take a closer look at the Life Trap – Subjugation, and how it affects me in my daily life. It is the first of the 18 Life Traps that I will delve into as I go through the book at hand, Tunne Lukkosi by Kimmo Takanen. A brief summary based…
Life Traps | Pt. 1: What are my Life Traps?
In this post, I will go through the test within the book (or online here, for those that speak Finnish) briefly, and try to make a preliminary screening of which of the 18 Life Traps I hold on to. The 18 emotional locks as described by ISST (International Society of Schema Therapy), and the book…
Introduction: Life Trap Series
As a part of my journey through life with Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD), I have decided that it would be an amazing opportunity to go through the tools and ways I’m trying to manage my everyday struggle, with my readers. And of course, what better way of doing that than to journal my progress, beginning…
It’s My Choice!
”You’re an adult now, you make choices and they have consequences.” That’s what I was being told a lot when I decided to marry my husband. I wonder why just now, after 29 years of being on the planet I got told that with such a self-important tone it almost made me sneer. Why wasn’t…
Letter to my 2020-self
As I was flicking through Twitter one day, trying to figure out what to do about the New Years’ post since nothing much was going to happen due to Covid, I found Hannah’s post. It’s a letter to the past year and while the idea is amazing in itself, I decided to give it a…
How to Handle a Bomb Threat Without Panicking
In the Winter of 2020, My husband and I were faced with a scary situation. A deranged man was howling he had hostages and a bomb!